Building Better Relationships

Reverend Steve Whitters, D, Th,, offers marital counseling, emotional, and behavioral counseling.  My extensive training and experience can help you mend broken hearts and homes. If you’re experiencing any emotional issues or want to develop your communication skills let me help you. I can help you to strengthen your relationships, better your marriage and eliminate anxiety. I excel in finding the stumbling blocks that frustrate you from having the life you want. I provide counseling for individuals, couples, teenagers, and seniors.

My Services Include:

  • Marriage Counseling
  • Communication Skills
  • Changing Emotions
  • Improving Behaviors
  • Developing Self-Esteem
  • Building Business Skills
  • Managing Medical Problems
  • Recovery from Shame and Guilt
  • Mending Relationships
  • Changing the "Rules" of Co-Dependency

My Approach:

  • I operate from a basic philosophy that therapy is a growth and learning process.
  • Every person has their own “map” of reality.
  • That "map" is to be respected, understood and utilized during the process of change.
  • Each person has the resources and abilities needed to create positive and beneficial change.

Pre Marriage Counseling

Pre marriage counseling is a good idea for couples who are engaged or plan to get married in the near future. Although these relationships are generally strong and happy, pre marriage counseling can help to work out any initial issues and make sure that the couple is solid enough for marriage. Wouldn’t it be better to seek pre marriage counseling to iron out problems and seek guidance, than to seek marriage counseling years down the line when you feel the marriage is on the rocks? Why Seek Pre Marriage Counseling? Here are some good reasons to seek pre marriage counseling:

You are young, and have never been married before

You or your partner has a fear of commitment

You have a hard time resolving difficult conflicts together

You or your partner had a previously failed marriage, and you want to avoid a recurrence

You have a need for conflict resolution skills

You or your partner has a history of childhood or sexual abuse

You will be blending families

What is Pre Marriage Counseling?


A professional marriage or family therapist, or sometimes a member of the clergy depending on your religious beliefs and choices, facilitates pre marriage counseling. Pre marriage counseling is designed to address two main areas of interest: guiding you in developing skills to successfully journey through your marriage and future, and resolving any existing problems that could interrupt the benefits of your relationship and marriage. Your pre marriage counselor will most likely use an assessment tool such as the Pre-Marital Inventory (PMI) that serves as a list-style questionnaire to address similarities you share and areas that might need more communication between you and your partner. What Does the Pre-Marital Inventory Assess? The PMI asks several questions which both partners answer. It is in list form, and asks simple questions such as “Are you able to trust your partner?” and “How will you divide the household chores?” It covers important areas like interests, what roles each partner will fulfill, communication, religion, children, sexuality, finances and more. It is a simple yet effective way to see where each partner stands, and what beliefs are shared. It can be eye opening to see that your partner expects you to do all of the housework or prepare all of the meals when you never expected it, for example. As a couple who is about to encounter a great life journey of marriage together, it’s important to be realistic and know that there will be challenges to work out together.

What Does the Pre-Marital Inventory Assess?

The PMI asks several questions which both partners answer. It is in list form, and asks simple questions such as “Are you able to trust your partner?” and “How will you divide the household chores?” It covers important areas like interests, what roles each partner will fulfill, communication, religion, children, sexuality, finances and more. It is a simple yet effective way to see where each partner stands, and what beliefs are shared. It can be eye opening to see that your partner expects you to do all of the housework or prepare all of the meals when you never expected it, for example. As a couple who is about to encounter a great life journey of marriage together, it’s important to be realistic and know that there will be challenges to work out together. What Should You Do?If you are engaged, it’s a great idea to seek pre marriage counseling. It doesn’t mean that you are already having problems or that you are unsure of your marriage, or are too weak to deal with problems on your own, so beware any preconceived stigmas about it. It can help to strengthen and put your relationship into a positive perspective for all of the future adventures you will be sharing together.